"Here Comes Love!"

I think monogamy is not what one should be focusing on at the beginning of the relationship, but what one has in common with one another.  Everything else will fall into place.  It takes a long period of time to get to know someone likes and dislikes.  Sex should not be a variable.  This is if you want God to remain in the relationship before the marriage occur.  Sex is the bonus of the marriage.  Great sex comes with a strong sense of who one is and the person who one marries.

My top ten on what I look for in a man are:  Sincerity, Honesty, Forgiving, Trustworthy, Understanding, Patient, Romanticizing, Humble, Business minded, and Cute!

"Love Injection!"

I do believe if men are heard and can release some of their pain, they too can become better men in society.  They will be best listeners, husbands, fathers, sons, brothers, nephews, uncles, cousins, friends, and so forth.  Men too should feel free to discuss the topics of being abused by wives, girlfriends, mothers, sisters, daughters, nieces, aunts, females cousins, females co-worker, teachers, and so forth.  Once men know that they are not alone, they can begin the process of healing within themselves.  They will be more comfortable to discuss the topic more openly with family and friends.  More importantly and hopefully, the women will understand that this is not love.  The women should seek the help and begin the healing process also.

No one should be physically, verbally, sexually, or emotionally abused by anyone.  Especially by women, they loved.

"You Are Committed!"

 I find that married men do not approach me at all.  Personally, I have always made it my business to stay away from married men.  And if I should find out that he lied to me about not being married, he would be out of there because he lied to me.  There is no love for a liar. It will make no different how long I had known him, or what little love, I had gain for him.  The love would be destroyed.  When a man is married, he still have that union and promise with his wife. The courts would recognize the union.  To me, I believe the divorce must be finalized first.   There is no other way.

It is truly up to that husband to give that final loyalty love and respect to the woman who serves as his wife.

"Being Together!"

"Love is; wait a minute.  Love is..."  I know that the love it took to get one; it is going to take that very same love to keep one.  This is conditional love.  This kind of love is constantly conditioned.  Love is patient.  One has to give one that period to learn to trust one.  The perfect bond of union is love. (Colossians 3:14)

"Say, I want to mourn.  Let me mourn for love.  I want to mourn for Love."  sung by Al Green

"Bells Will Be Ringing!"

I believe too elaborated wedding may please relatives and the community, but it may leave the newlyweds and families physically exhausted and financially drained.  I also believe slavish and perhaps competitive conformity can overshadow the meaning of the occasion.  It can rob the couple of the joy that they should have.  Keeping in mind the feelings of others, the groom is primarily responsible for deciding what will go on at the wedding reception. 

The wedding lasts for just one day, but the marriage lasts for a lifetime.  We should avoid concentrating too much on the act of getting married, but look to God for guidance and plan ahead for a life of marriage.  This way we have prepared well for a successful marriage.

"The Time Of Your Life!"

The funny thing about having a lot of money is that it is said that it brings out the person who you really are.  In some cases, I feel that a woman who is financially independent should down place her wealth until she really get to know the man better.  If that man should really care, it will not matter to him of her financial freedom. 

Personally, I prefer to arrive to that kind of success with the support, but if not, so be it as it may.  Money can not buy love, and it certainly can not buy happiness.  It is ashamed to have so much money, and there is no comfort to be found, simple because one did not take the time to invest one's love and time.  This is only if one is ready for companionship.

"Love And Marriage!"

I do believe that there are some unasked questions in some relationships.  When a couple has love and respect for one another, I do believe that marriage could be the most beautiful thing because God is the originator of marriage.  We must ask questions in "getting to know you; getting to know you better!"

Birds OF The Feather Flock Together!

Friendship has many different layers.  We have friendship in acquaintances, buddies, pen pals, partners, and best of friends just to name a few.  True friendship does not ask for any thing only respect, but in order to receive respect, you have to first give respect, and then respect will come back to you in return with full force. 

True friends do not have any problems in respecting your time, space, and effort.  I don't have a best friend.  I like to think that I do have friends like everyone else, but I am more like an eagle.  I do soar alone in most interests. 

 

"I'll Be There!"

Some people loves with their hearts which the heart can be treacherous.

Love to me is caring for someone with your Mind, Body and Soul.  The Mind is constantly thinking of ways to continue to respect that person with love.  The Body is to be there and sharing in with that person with love.  And Soul is to save that person with much love.

To be love is a wonderful feeling, but to love yourself is the greatest gift of all!

"For The Love Of You!"

My life philosophies are "Don't start none, and it won't be none," "Forever Young,"  and "Positive Thinking People."  I know for me I am not going to start trouble just for the fun of it, but I will finish it.  I do believe that stress will put a toll on your appearance if you are not aware of the stress.  I like surrounding myself with positive thinking people or I wish to be by myself.  There are a lot of people who has a good out look on positive thinking of life challenges. 

"Smoke In Your Eye!"

When you truly love or care for someone, you want to see that person happy not in pain of hurt which you caused.  To me, growing pains are really tensions which are often mistaking as pain.  It should never hurt so good; it should only feel so good. 

Words can be used as well as undergoing surgery, or it can be used to smell like a bouquet of flowers.

"Impossible Is Just An Opinion!"

We all have to be conscience of our weight.  Whether we are over weight or under weight, we have a responsible to ourselves as well as to our families.  It is not an impossible task to keep ours  bodies in good healthy fitness.  Keep your body in good fitness shape because your body is indeed your temple.

"You Are Beautiful!"

No one deserves to be called out of one's name which was given to one at birth, no matter what.  One just have to let people know what one will tolerated and what is unacceptable.  One's honesty is what make one who one is.  One does not hold back.  One should not call people out of their names, and it should not be done to one simple because one is not in agreement with the other.   

There are small thinking people, but it is not in one!  You are the best!

"Name Brands Play On One's Intelligence...!"

... if you let it, it will do just that play on your intelligence. Advertising would right out state in so many words, of course, one is absolutely nothing unless one buys this product.  If one is not careful, one will buy into the hype. 

Designers will buy T-shirts for .99 cents each.  They will put their name on it, and than they will sell it on the market for $999.00 dollars each.  Because of this practice, the designers name become well known.

I can sometime hear the designers laughing all the way to the bank while they make a deposit of their recent hype just from selling T-shirts. 

"Hey, if you buy this T-shirt everybody will know who's the boss!"

"Tenderness Of Love!"

Yes, there are a lot of adult children who have unsolved issues with their parents.  In some cases, it is the parents who will apologize to their now adult children, but in most cases, it is the adult children who apologize to their parents first for not listening to them.  That's when you know, you are all grown-up.

All children think that all the parents have to do, and especially, the mothers have to do is just kiss the pain away and make it all better.  In most cases symbolically, a kiss will be all that it takes. 

"Home IS Where The Heart Is!"

Why some married couples break-up after living together for such a long time?  They marry and then the marriage is over.  I believe that they stop loving and respecting one another.  We have to have love for God first and then for each other.  We have to respect each other "giving consideration and honoring one another "  because the marriage can work.  We have to be willing to forgive one another freely as God forgive us freely.

I have much love and respect for the families and friends of 9/11.  May we all remain strong!

"The Color Of The Heart!"

Yes, as you can tell, the dark and light shaded skin tone disease still plague among some of our heredity.  We have got to stop separating and hating among ourselves, and we must come together as a people, so that we may move forward in a better healthy mental state.

We must not enter in a relationship because of the color shade of one's skin tone, but we must enter in that relationship by the color of one's character.  Are they true blue, or angry red or cowardly yellow or even money hungry green?    Now, these are the colors shade of skin that we shall concern ourselves.  The colors go on and on! 

You can almost bet your last dollar that someone is going to show one's true color. 

"It's The Falling In Love!"

Some people don't like the expression of falling in love.  It's the kind of love that make you feel light headed, and it's the kind of love that have you down for the count.  It's nothing wrong with fall in love; falling in love is always a good thing.  Just be careful how you fall in love.

"It's the falling love that makes me shine, shine, shine!" 

"Love Conquers All!"

I believe that love conquers all.  Love does conquer all because it takes love to conquer love.  Some people calls it tough love; however, it is love.  It takes love to leave it alone.  It takes love to just walk away.  It takes love to just be still.  It takes love to be patience.  It takes love to be alone.  It takes love to do what is right.  It takes love to be forgiving.  It takes love to have a heart of gold.  And the list goes on and on. 

"It Takes Two, Baby!"

You and me; it just take two.  The songs of love speaks to the inner spirit of the hearts.

"Ten Commandments For A Son!"

I have ten commandments for my son:  1) Graduate from high school.  2)  Work in a field of studies that you feel is most enjoyable to you to make a living.  3)  Don't have sex before you are married.  4)  Have your own home, job, money clothes, and car.  5) Date as many women as you like without having sex with those women, so that you may learn to mentally classified women in your own mind by their persona and appearance never settle for less.  6)  Never tell a woman you love her unless you really mean it.  7)  Choose a woman that believe in God in her heart.  9)  Choose a woman that believe and think the same way you do about raising children, finance, and keeping commitments whether they are small or large.  10)  Always show women respect even when you don't think that they deserve it. 

These are my ten commandments for my son to take into consideration.  There will be more, but these shall have him thinking.

"Love And Respect!"

I believe in a married couple's sexual relationship there must be good communication.  In a marriage, selfishness and lack of self-control can seriously damage this most intimate relationship.  Open communication and patience are essential in a marriage.

Married partners having love and respect for one another will not see every disagreement as a challenge.  With good communication, both husband and wife will feel free to make their needs known.  They can be sources of comfort and help to each other in times of stress and disappointment. 

When married couples unselfishly seek the well-being of the other mate, sex is rarely a serious problem.  It is true there will be ups and downs in every marriage, but we must submit to God's thinking, as revealed in the Bible - 1 Corinthians 7: 3-5.   We should base our marriages on the principle of love and respect.

"The Beauty Of Happiness!"

There are so many reasons why other women hate on others women.  A woman could simply be jealous of another woman happiness without even knowing the other woman situation.  The woman looks to be happy or the other woman thinks that the woman is happy.  Some weak minded women who have not found happiness within themselves will try to destroy a strong will woman mentally. 

No woman should let another woman bring her down with negativity.  They should keep the smile and happy feeling going.  Conquer the enemies with the beautiful smile.  Never dim your own light of beauty.

We make our own happiness.  No one can bring us happiness.  We make it happen.  This is what a lot of women need to learn to love themselves.  There is really no need to hate.

"Apprecation Goes A Long Way!"

What do I want out of a relationship?  I want to be appreciated in the relationship.  I want appreciation for all that I do to keep the relationship in a loving and healthy way.  I will keep my relationship reaching for the goals of a healthy life of love.  I believe that I am at my very best when I am free to do things my way as long as it is not hurting any one.  I want to be allowed to dream the dreams, and I don't want to ever be selfish when it comes to my relationship.  I want to be a share key player in the relationship to help the relationship to grow in a more appreciative way.

"This Is No Ordinary Love!"

What most couples have is no ordinary love, but it works for them.  They have a special kind of relationship that fixes them.  It is a relationship that is truly alive for just the two of them.  They are constantly growing into their relationship, and the relationship is very personal to both of them.  It will remain that way throughout the willingness to discuss taking it to the next level of love.  Even now, he is the head of that relationship.

May God remains in that loving relationship.

"Solid As A Rock!"

Yes, every good woman needs a good man whether she is financial stable or not.  If she makes more money than her man, it should only means that she got his back financially and nothing more.  Now he must have her back emotionally, spiritually and even physically.  In a really good relationship, it's never ever going to be even.  One has to give in a little and the other has to take a little.  That is why they are considered to be as one.

A good man does not feel less than a man just because his wife is making more money than he.  That would only means, he wants to be in control fully.  solid

"Love Is Coming At You!"

There are so many people who are unhappy because of their hang ups on race issues, the light skin and dark skin issues, short and tall issues, and social status issues.  The list goes on and on if we allow it to.  Many people miss out on great love affairs because of their own silly hang ups.  So they go on living and thinking that there is no love to be found.  The greatest love of all is the love that eases the pain to try to love again.

Allow God to find that puzzle piece of love for a prefect fit!

Happy Father's Day!

Happy Father's Day to all of you wonderful caring fathers!  May your day be fill with joy and happiness.  May every child can say, "That's my Dad!"  And may every wife can say "That's my children father!"  May you always keep at a low profile, but keep doing and keep in mind the responsibilities as a father figure.

Happy Dad Day!

"The Ringing Bells OF Love!"

If I were engaged to be marry, would I give back the engagement ring if the marriage was called off?

Yes, I will give back the engagement ring because the ring is a symbolical symbol of a promise of marriage.  It does not matter who broke the promise of marriage first.  I will give back that gorgeous engagement ring because now it only represent a broken promise of marriage.

And if the marriage should end in a divorce, I will keep the rings because I would have felt that I earned every stone in those rings.

"Love For Real!"

A relationship requires flexibility.  It can go in so many different directions, and takes place at so many different levels.  It is impossible to say where the relationship is headed sometimes.  Sometimes in the relationship when one partner finds a comfort zone, the other partner is not feeling a comfort zone.  The relationship is headed for a breakdown.  No one should get so comfortable that one takes the relationship for granted, but the couple should be comfortable in the relationship to enjoy one another company.  In a true relationship, it is a team between two partners.  No one else is allowed on that team except for God.  Yes, it's very much like marriage without the game play; however, it can be fun, too!

"Patient Is A Virtu!""

Are there really so many babies' moms than they are wives?  Why is this?  Could it be because a woman wants to speed up a marriage proposal, or she just want a baby to love her without the assist of the baby's father, or did he really whisper sweet nothings in her ears.  What ever it could be, does the child deserves such life?  Does child's mother deserves such life?

There are so many unanswer question?  Having a baby by a man is not going to make him love you any more, or makes him marry you any sooner, or at all.  It is all about having faith in that man to have patient to wait for that marriage proposal.  So you don't believe in having an abortion, but why put yourself in that position in the first place?  He is still not going to marry you, so why have him keep coming around!?

Marriage first than the babies, God's order!  Happiness does not come without the work, so be happy and work hard at it!

"What A Little Moonlight Can Do!"

"Love is long-suffering and kind.  Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked.  It does not keep account of the injury.  It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.  It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." ( 1 Corinthians  13: 4-7)  

This will be real true love!

"You've Got To Earn It!"

 

The basic way I learned how to manage money was by trials and errors with major purchases.  I am always learning new things about saving and spending money wisely.  We all tend to spend more money than we have or earn.  I must say I have learned to make ends meet not always like a pretty tied ribbon bow; however, they do meet.  It can be a difficult task.  Sometime, I just make do or do without.  I find it help build character within me.  Personally, I am trying to make money not spend money.  Where is the insensibility in that?

"Hey, Momma! Mom!"

I remember one day when I was a little girl.  I called out to my mother so many times while following directly behind her.  I said, " Hey, Momma!  Mom!  Mommaa!"  My mother turned around and looked at me, and she said, "I am going to change my name." as she looked to see who all were following behind her.  She turned back around and continued to walk.  Together, we all said, "Hey Mom! Momma!!!" 

I love you, Mom!

Happy Mother's Day!    

"Walking In The Rain With The One You Love!"

It is good to desire an one woman man.  You only want to give your love to one man who loves you with his body, mine, and heart.  I believe trust and love that a couple shares will keep them together.  It is so important that a marriage couple do not go to bed upset with one another.  And it is so important that they give their very best to one another at all time.

Marriage couple should expect the best behavior from one another such as: how one speaks, walks, acts with and without company, lives, conducts oneself, dresses, and things in general.  It's the trusting in the marriage that make the marriage shine even in stormy weather. 

"A Unified Marriage!"

One has to be mentally ready for marriage.  Getting married for all the wrong reasons can be dangerously liaison.  There are three main reasons why I would even consider getting married without having cold feet would be:  1) He would be my peace of mind.  2) I trust his leadership along with him valuing my input. 3) He would be my loving man.

He would be my peace of mind which means he is always there for me as I will be for him.  He would create a sense of peace within me without knowing.  There would not be any unnecessarily worries.  He would be a man of his words of truth and so would I.   I would trust his leadership; he would values my input on the matters.  He would take the lead in making the best decisions in our marriage.  He would also value my opinion before he makes his final decisions.  If he does not take my advice on the matter at hand, I will still support him in the decision that he makes in this union of ours.   He would be my loving man.  He would be the man that I will give hot sweating wrestling love as well as  near the cracking fireplace warmth glowing love.  He would be my husband.

These are a few reasons why I would even consider marrying, but I would first have to know if he is even worthy of my love and affection.  Falling in love is really not a bad thing as long as you free fall.

"Set Me Free; Why Don't You, Baby?"

One of my Ten Commandment's for my son is he may date as many women as he likes, but don't have sex with those women.  This is for him to get to know the type of women out there, and so he may have a better understanding of the kind of woman he prefers to share his time; however, the child is in his last year of high school.  He got time before all of "that!"

In all honesty, I prefer a man to be up front with me, so I can be as honest with him as he is with me.  If he stated to me that he is dating someone else, but he wants to see me too.  I would ask him is he sexual involved with her?  If he is, than I do not want to date him.  I would be honest as he has been honest with me.

If he says that he is not sexual involved with her, and than I find out later he really is sexual involved with her.  The relationship is than over because I can no longer trust him with my life.  My philosophy is "Someday, he will come alone the man I love, and he will be big and strong the man that I love."
"Big" as to know, what he wants in life and "Strong" as to not let others turn him around from his will.  Yes, this is a song, "The Man I Love " sung by Billie Holiday.  He will not have to date more than one woman.  When he meets me, he will know immediately, I am the woman.  He has been so long searching with the glass slipper in his right hand!

In the meantime, who needs the drama, I will happy wait for a fairytale love any day!

"Thinking Of You!"

Beside love and respect in a good marriage, my top 10 qualities for a good marriage would be: 1) Humor, 2) Sensitivity, 3) Sweet Personality, 4) Not Judgmental, 5) Organizer, 6) Determination, 7) Persistence, 8) Passion, 9) Responsible, and 10) Reliable. 

Love and respect are in the gestures.  It is the little things that make a great marriage.  "Thinking Of You" cards, bring home one's favorite ice cream or to that effect,  the movement of the mouth saying, "I love you!" in a crowded room, giving one space to reconnect with oneself, forgiveness, and many more sweet loving gestures.  We all must feel wanted in a loving way.

"You're The Greatest!"

I believe when both parents work outside of the home, both parents should pitch in to care for their home.  If the children are an appropriate age, they should also be allow to help in the home.  They can keep their bedrooms clean, keep their toys off the floors, keep their waste baskets empty, help with the dishes, set the table for dinner, and so far.  Little things like this will help mom and well as dad.

A family that prays together, stays together; is also a family who works together too!

"That's The Story Of Love!"

"You got to give a little.

Take a little,

and let your poor heart break a little.

That's the story of

that's the glory of love.

You got to laugh a little,

cry a little

before the clouds roll by a little.

That's the story of

that's the glory of love.

As long as there is the two of us,

we got the world,

and all its charms..."

This is theme song from "Guess Who's Coming For Dinner"

"...And when the world is through with us,

we got each other arms."

"Got To Be A Do Right!"

What will be my purpose of marrying? Besides getting my groove on in the bedroom, it will be for my peace of mind such as my mental, emotional, and spiritual state. It will also be to share my interests, good conversations to inspire my continuous growth. I will than have my love twin.

My mental state is to have that relax and calm down feeling in a true marriage. Someone who would allow me to think and reason out for myself. I too feel that I have a valuable opinion. Someone, I can keep my emotions in tact and to have a grand old time without any spiritual guilt. I know that he is not going to share all of my interests maybe a few or just one. As long as, we show each other, "I like you; you like me," we got a hit!

I will get marry only for the "Love and Respect!"

"Love From Above!"

Whenever I use the phase "Put God First," I am saying that I put God before any false idols or any false spiritual means such as fortune tellers and so far. When I have a problem, I turn to God in prayer to assist me in finding the best solution for my problem. If it appears to be out of my hands, I put it in God's hands and leave it there. To put God first, you have to seek God first and do something.

Everyone should develop a close relationship with God. God is our heavenly father because He created us. Just like a human father can give life to his child.

"An Appreciation Of Love!"

I think monogamy is very important in a relationship especially before the possibility of marriage. I believe to truly have God's blessing in one's marriage, is not to have sex before marriage. Over the years, I have come to realize that it is the best way to beginning a happy and long fulfilled marriage.

Have you ever wonder; why some marriages break up after the couple was married for a few months, and the couple was together for years? Have you ever wonder why the sex stop right after the couple get married? When things are not done in the order of things, it has a great possibilities of changing up.

Marriage needs a clean slate without any expectations. You play and learn as you go. Marriage is a team of three: you, your mate, and God. Now play life balls! Watch out! There is a curve ball, and it's coming at you!

"A Submitted Lifestyle"

If I were married, I would rather be divorced than to submit to a swinger lifestyle. The divorce rate would just have to increase more. It would be like, " I love you, Babe, but I love myself more." This type of marriage is still an unhealthy marriage, and being married for years in an agreed upon unfaithful marriage, is no marriage at all. There will always be one of the couple who will favor the lifestyle more than the other, and the other will go on hurting deep down inside in silent. Sometime, it is easier to stay with someone when you know that they are not about anything!

There are so many sexual transmitted diseases out there that I still do not know all the names for them. There are no known cures for some of those sexual transmitted diseases. Playing around with such a burning fire, somebody or everybody will get burnt even with protection. Which mate will take the blame when this lifestyle means death at some point and time? In my opinion, it could be the prefect crime!

Who God has blessed you, one is only for you and not for sharing!

"Falsehood Of Romance!"

A player of romance is like a gambler. He gambles with women's hearts, minds, money and true existence. A player will never give up his women not even on his death bed. This is the only game he has ever known to play, and he thinks that he plays a good game. A player will never admit that he is a player because this is how he survives with his cheating ways. He will never be truly satisfied with any mate he plays.

A cheater is like a coward little mice. He will go and snatched up the cheese while the cat's back is turned, and than run back where he thinks it is safe for the moment. He is mentally and unhealthy mate.

Player, player, play at your own risk. Game Over!

Happy Heart Day!

It's okay to like and to love. This is what the world need now a little bit of happiness. With kindness flowing from our hearts, I love you; you love me. Roses are red; violets are blue. Sugar is sweet and so are you! Hugs and Kisses! You're my Honey! " Honey Bee (keep On Stinging Me)"

And that's just the love you have for yourself, but do share!

"The King's Heart!"

I strongly believe when a man gets married, it is his Wedding Day! Think of the wedding day like this. The man is the king. It is the king's day to marry a woman such as you to become his queen. To have and to hold a woman like you, it's a day of honor on his behalf. The wedding day becomes his day when he truly becomes a King Of Heart to marry a woman with such splendor at his side.

It is he that should feel so honored. Days like this; does come so often. It's his grand day! "All through the nights!"

"Sweet Forget Me Nots!"

I believe there are a lot of women who had good men in their lives, but they could not recognize them because of the rose colored glasses. Some women grew up to be 'daddy's little girl' well into adulthood. Daddy is to the rescue; daddy is always there to lend a helping hand. I believe some fathers have cripple their own daughters. By this, I mean all they have to do is share a little tear and get their way, not so. This type of behavior is not going to work or always work with the men in their lives. No one likes a cry baby!

My sisters and I would say, "He's a good man!" just by looking at him. My grandmother would always say, "You all wouldn't know a good man if you stare him in the face!" We would say, "What does that mean?", to one another, "What is it that Madear is trying to say!"

I know now what my grandmother was saying! You have to get to know the man first to give him the chance to "prove" what he can or can't do. Not what he "looks" like he can or can't do. Which is alway the key, is to get to know. That's the key!

"Trust And Faith!"

The true is no man can promise any woman monogamy, and truly means it. He will have to pray to God for the strength not to commit the sin. Apostle Paul wrote, "But even if you did marry, you would commit no sin. And if a virgin [person] married, such one would commit no sin. However, those who do will have tribulation in their flesh. But I am sparing you." 1 Corinthians 7:28

One would have to ask oneself, "Do I want to do what is right, or do I want to do what is wrong!" Doing what is right, goes a long, long way not "If loving you is wrong, I don't want to be right!" Think before you act because there are serious consequences lurking in the darkness. One might not can promise, but one does have control over one's action.

"We All Need A Hero!"

Yes, we all need a hero in our lives. Someone, we admire with all of our hearts. Someone, we love and cherish. Someone, who is kind and loving. Someone, who is thoughtful and giving. Someone, we can count on. Someone, who is trustworthy. And someone, who will speak up. Yes, we are our own heroes.

My hero!