"A Unified Marriage!"

One has to be mentally ready for marriage.  Getting married for all the wrong reasons can be dangerously liaison.  There are three main reasons why I would even consider getting married without having cold feet would be:  1) He would be my peace of mind.  2) I trust his leadership along with him valuing my input. 3) He would be my loving man.

He would be my peace of mind which means he is always there for me as I will be for him.  He would create a sense of peace within me without knowing.  There would not be any unnecessarily worries.  He would be a man of his words of truth and so would I.   I would trust his leadership; he would values my input on the matters.  He would take the lead in making the best decisions in our marriage.  He would also value my opinion before he makes his final decisions.  If he does not take my advice on the matter at hand, I will still support him in the decision that he makes in this union of ours.   He would be my loving man.  He would be the man that I will give hot sweating wrestling love as well as  near the cracking fireplace warmth glowing love.  He would be my husband.

These are a few reasons why I would even consider marrying, but I would first have to know if he is even worthy of my love and affection.  Falling in love is really not a bad thing as long as you free fall.

"Set Me Free; Why Don't You, Baby?"

One of my Ten Commandment's for my son is he may date as many women as he likes, but don't have sex with those women.  This is for him to get to know the type of women out there, and so he may have a better understanding of the kind of woman he prefers to share his time; however, the child is in his last year of high school.  He got time before all of "that!"

In all honesty, I prefer a man to be up front with me, so I can be as honest with him as he is with me.  If he stated to me that he is dating someone else, but he wants to see me too.  I would ask him is he sexual involved with her?  If he is, than I do not want to date him.  I would be honest as he has been honest with me.

If he says that he is not sexual involved with her, and than I find out later he really is sexual involved with her.  The relationship is than over because I can no longer trust him with my life.  My philosophy is "Someday, he will come alone the man I love, and he will be big and strong the man that I love."
"Big" as to know, what he wants in life and "Strong" as to not let others turn him around from his will.  Yes, this is a song, "The Man I Love " sung by Billie Holiday.  He will not have to date more than one woman.  When he meets me, he will know immediately, I am the woman.  He has been so long searching with the glass slipper in his right hand!

In the meantime, who needs the drama, I will happy wait for a fairytale love any day!

"Thinking Of You!"

Beside love and respect in a good marriage, my top 10 qualities for a good marriage would be: 1) Humor, 2) Sensitivity, 3) Sweet Personality, 4) Not Judgmental, 5) Organizer, 6) Determination, 7) Persistence, 8) Passion, 9) Responsible, and 10) Reliable. 

Love and respect are in the gestures.  It is the little things that make a great marriage.  "Thinking Of You" cards, bring home one's favorite ice cream or to that effect,  the movement of the mouth saying, "I love you!" in a crowded room, giving one space to reconnect with oneself, forgiveness, and many more sweet loving gestures.  We all must feel wanted in a loving way.

"You're The Greatest!"

I believe when both parents work outside of the home, both parents should pitch in to care for their home.  If the children are an appropriate age, they should also be allow to help in the home.  They can keep their bedrooms clean, keep their toys off the floors, keep their waste baskets empty, help with the dishes, set the table for dinner, and so far.  Little things like this will help mom and well as dad.

A family that prays together, stays together; is also a family who works together too!