
There are so many unanswer question? Having a baby by a man is not going to make him love you any more, or makes him marry you any sooner, or at all. It is all about having faith in that man to have patient to wait for that marriage proposal. So you don't believe in having an abortion, but why put yourself in that position in the first place? He is still not going to marry you, so why have him keep coming around!?
Marriage first than the babies, God's order! Happiness does not come without the work, so be happy and work hard at it!